15day Challenge Re-Cap

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A little bit ago I challenged myself to 15 days @ 15 minutes of meditation- During the 15 days I sat at whichever time of day worked out for me. One or two days I missed throughout the 15. The haphazard-ness of when to sit isn’t exactly comforting. Constantly worried that I would forget – which a lot of days I did, but remembered with just barely enough time to “squeeze it in”. This, to me, is not carving out the time. So, when the 15 days was up- I unconsciously let it all go. I (now, I know I have already talked about this) completely understand morning meditation, even more now, and why people do that. I, however can not force myself to do that, at least, not now.
After the meditation stopped, things started changing rapidly. The things I had enacted just weeks before with ease, started to become mountains to climb. And then the dreams started. A dream sequence that is, in the least, disconcerting and annoying. They are all very specific, with one root that will remain void here. But, on top of that, the billowing clouds that hold these dreams keep letting loose these formations of thought steeped in history of habitual thought. Certain inequities thrust upon a human at an unfortunate age that in some lives inform the future. “Things” that never had any weight or form except someone believed it to be true .. and how these recordings re-play themselves with some sort of created connection that has no link. No way to even explain it because there is no brain to talk to. No information can be passed in this manner- only concocted. And, with this, future is made because there is some sort of belief by someone, somewhere, that doesn’t even breathe. “Rewinding” and pressing play again only creates a deadened receptor that then loses it’s synapse .. but then, somehow, connects to the street. The electrical, fully functioning, mobile pathways where the rest of the relationships can be thwarted. Each and every light goes out and only the humans that can see the switch can rectify that.
What’s my point here?
Meditation works.
Even if every single relationship falls out of the sky, and you are meditating regularly and with a semblance of gratefulness, you will not fall with them. Even if no one understands you again. Even if people don’t bother to try and see, it ultimately, in the end, does not matter. And, each time this happens, know, it will happen again. Some sort of sick and twisted “Déjà Vu”. Moments that have built since childhood, crumble at this realization. No matter how much you “wish” it to not be so, it is really out of your hands‑ this wish is founded upon a non-connection and ultimately informs your psyche of a “Bad Habit” to latch back onto. Yes, this can be unfortunate and cause sadness, but, in the end- no matter how hard it is to get through, this is good information- sure it’s confusing- and for me personally, it is a struggle.
I have all but had to change my entire life around- look at it from all sides and make a decision. Most of my life has been much of a guessing game, no one seems to get that (but as I said, doesn’t really matter) That being said- when you spend most of your life dealing constantly with other people’s inability to communicate- you have the great adventure of learning how to communicate on your own- not only with other people- but more difficultly – with your SELF. For me, this part is most difficult because of those childhood guessing games- and, if you are, the “Middle Marriage Child” (mind you, and EXTREME difference to being the “middle child”- a “Middle Marriage Child”, to me, is when both of your parents “start over”) this is even more challenging. Imagine- a 6 year old artist living with people that are supremely confused by A- her and B- their own lives and ultimately begin passing said child around. A young child at certain developmental ages, this doesn’t exactly fare well in future relationships of either kind since these are “learned” skills that family and society are “supposed” to aid in the growth of.
So, basically, all that being said- it’s all crap we learn- and therefore we can unlearn it. The only things we can’t un-do are the ways people connect to their own lives and moments. No matter what.
Solution?
Go meditate.